“Life and death are in the power of the tongue…” Proverbs 18:21
Communication is powerful. Communication can no doubt have an impact on others and on ourselves. How we communicate with our words and actions can speak life or death into those around us, but whatever we put out into the world always comes back to ourselves.
Our communication style definitely has roots in our childhood:
- What were we taught?
- What was modeled for us?
- What did we see most often?
Our communication style also reveals the confidence that we have in ourselves:
- How do we feel about ourselves?
- How do we see ourselves compared to others?
- What were we taught about who we are?
Our communication style impacts our marriage and how we interact with our spouse…our parenting and how we interact with our child(ren)…and really, how we interact in all of our relationships.
There are 4 main types of communication: Passive, Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive, and Assertive. We will use each of these styles in different situations, but each of us has one style–maybe two–that we tend to use most often. The goal is to become more of an Assertive Communicator.
Let’s find out how you communicate most often. Below are a series of statements. Check the box of any statement that you STRONGLY AGREE with or that sounds like you MOST OF THE TIME. Be honest.
At our next coaching session, you will find out your main communication style and we will discuss ways you can the information you learn to better your relationships moving forward.
NOTE: We communicate differently with different people in our lives. You may need to take this test multiple times to represent: 1. How you are with people in general. 2. How you are with your spouse or significant other. and 3. How you are with your children.
DIRECTIONS: We communicate differently with different people in our lives, so you may need to take this assessment multiple times. Decide what perspective you will be taking for the assessment below.
- How you communicate with people in general.
- How you communicate with your spouse/significant other.
- How you communicate with your child(ren).
With that perspective in mind, read each statement below and check the box if applies to you. Click submit. Switch your perspective and take the assessment again as needed.