“Life and death are in the power of the tongue…” Proverbs 18:21
Communication is powerful. Communication can no doubt have an impact on others and on ourselves. How we communicate with our words and actions can speak life or death into those around us, but whatever we put out into the world always comes back to ourselves.
Our communication style definitely has roots in our childhood:
- What were we taught?
- What was modeled for us?
- What did we see most often?
Our communication style also reveals the confidence that we have in ourselves:
- How do we feel about ourselves?
- How do we see ourselves compared to others?
- What were we taught about who we are?
There are 4 main types of communication: Passive, Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive, and Assertive. We will use each of these styles in different situations, but each of us has one style–maybe two–that we tend to use most often. The goal is to become more of an Assertive Communicator.
Let’s find out how you communicate most often. Below are a series of statements. Check the box of any statement that you STRONGLY AGREE with or that sounds like you MOST OF THE TIME. Be honest. Also, consider taking this assessment twice—
- take it once with how you would communicate with adults.
- take it again with how you would communication with your children.
The reality is—sometimes we communicate differently with adults than we do with our children. At our next coaching session, you will find out your main communication style and we will discuss ways you can become more assertive…if you need it.