Parenting Styles

There are 3 main parenting styles–Authoritarian, Permissive, and Authoritative.

The Authoritarian style is very rule-based.

The Permissive style is very relationship-based.

The Authoritative style is a both rule-based and relationship-based.

According to research, the Authoritative parenting style is the healthiest and most effective style of parenting across cultures—where there is a balance between rules and relationship. The Teamwork Parenting Approach is a beautiful Authoritative parenting style that adds the element of faith, character-building, and teamwork to make it even better, and my goal as your parenting coach is to help you move more toward this style of parenting.

In this assessment, let’s find out your main parenting style.

Directions: Read each statement and check all that you would say MOST OF THE TIME. HELPFUL HINTS—Don’t select what you wish you did nor hope to do and don’t spend too much time on one. If you read it and think: “This totally sounds like me.” Check it. If it doesn’t, move on. At one of our future coaching sessions, we can discuss the results and if needed, make a plan to help you move toward the Teamwork Parenting Approach (Authoritative) by providing more tools to create a better balance to your parenting and therefore, bring more peace to your home.

First and Last Name

Read each statement and check all statements that apply to you when it comes to parenting.

1. I tend to stay pretty calm.

2. Sometimes I can be pretty passive and don't always address inappropriate behaviors.

3. My main focus is trying to make my kids happy.

4. I tend to cater to my kids' needs.

5. I can be kind of a softy.

6. I don't always speak up when they are doing something wrong.

7. I don't want to make my kids sad or upset.

8. I don't want to disappoint my kids.

9. I tend to give in if they throw a fit.

10. I fix their mistakes for them so they don't have to worry about it.

11. I do have rules but I have a hard time following through with consequences.

12. I don't feel very confident in my parenting choices.

13. I tend to be wishy washy--one day I enforce a rule, the next day I may not.

14. I am kind and concerned about my child's well-being above anything else.

15. Sometimes I feel my kids don't respect me.

16. My kids are in charge a lot and tell me what to do and I do it.

17. I believe that kids should have lose boundaries so they can learn and discover things for themselves.

18. The most important part of parenting is to raise kids who have a high self-esteem.

19. If my child does something wrong, sometimes I won't let them know that I know they did it.

20. I avoid conflict with my kids at all costs.

21. I care deeply about the relationship I have with my kids.

22. Sometimes I don't speak up and then when I'm irritated enough, I explode.

23. I am very confident in my parenting decisions.

24. I am stubborn.

25. I like things done my way.

26. I want my kids to behave.

27. Rules are very important to me.

28. If my kids don't obey the rules, I get very angry and sometimes yell.

29. I think consequences are very important.

30. I tend to be pretty aggressive to get my point across.

31. I can be rigid in my expectations.

32. I tend to spank or punish harshly.

33. I tend to make sarcastic comments towards my kids.

34. I have strict boundaries.

35. I feel angry and frustrated often at my kids' behavior.

36. I sometimes have trouble connecting with my kids.

37. I have very little flexibility.

38. I'm in charge so my kids rarely have a say in what goes on around our house.

39. My kids are afraid of me sometimes.

40. When my kids make mistakes, the first thing I do is yell.

41. Disobedience is not tolerated and is always punished.

42. I don't need my kids to like me; I need them to obey my rules.

43. My main goal in parenting is to teach.

44. I want my kids to learn how to fix their own mistakes and learn from them.

45. I speak up respectfully if my kids are misbehaving.

46. My kids are allowed to share their opinions, but ultimately, I have the final say.

47. My boundaries are clear and fair and my kids even have input in setting them.

48. I am calm and consistent when following through with consequences.

49. We solve problems as a team.

50. I think rules are equally as important as relationship and I show that in my parenting.

51. Keeping a close, positive relationship is important to me but so is keeping the rules.

52. I give my kids a second chance to get something right and I do not give up until they get it right.

53. I will find a way to compromise as long as it doesn't compromise safety or character.

54. I will find any way possible to cooperate, but I will not tolerate disrespect.

55. With respect, I speak up for how I feel and let my kids understand my perspective.

56. Family is a team effort and we work together to solve problems.

57. If my child makes a mistake, the first thing I do is to teach them how to fix it.

58. I am kind but firm.

59. I can offer grace and flexibility for the learning process of my kids.

60. I understand the importance of my kids knowing I'm in charge, but that I also love them.

61. I will let some things go if they don't really matter to the character development of my child.

62. I want my kids to share their input and opinions.

63. When there is a conflict, I try to listen and find a solution with my child being an active participant.

64. I feel confident as a parent but always seek God's wisdom to help me stay calm.

65. I value character building more than rule following.

66. I value character building more than just making my kids happy.

67. I need to grow in patience.

68. I need to grow in confidence.

69. I would like to be better at rule making.

70. I would like to be better at relationship building.

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