Our words matter. Whether we want to admit it or not, the power of our own words matters in our homes. Our kids are listening. The scary part is just how closely that they are listening.
Just to give you an idea…the other day, my oldest son was working on his Math Stars homework. I heard him say to my husband: “Daddy, I don’t like to do this work. It’s like: ‘Great! You’re smart in math…let me give you more work to do!”
I just chuckled in the other room because I had said that exact thing…word for word…about his Math Stars homework the other day. And my son was listening. I only said it once and yet he could quote me WORD FOR WORD! And he said these words as if they were his own. I could share more stories like this…could you?
That’s exactly what happens. Our words become their words.
The Modeling Tool is so important in our parenting. We must model the kind and respectful words we want our kids to use. When we talk to our spouse…when we talk to our friends…when we interact with strangers…when we make comments, observations, and pretty much say anything about anything, they are listening…and learning!
In our home, we focus a lot on being a team. That’s why I created the Teamwork Parenting Approach. We want our kids (and every kid) to have a sense of belonging in family. We want them to value unity and togetherness. And we are well aware that this starts with our words!
Any change in our homes that we desire to make must start with our words. First and foremost, words of prayer. That’s how true change will happen. Then, we must be mindful of the words we speak on a daily basis. If we want our kids to speak life, our words need to speak life. If we want our kids to speak kindness, love, respect, compassion, joy, and peace, our words need to do the same.
We want more teamwork in our home, so we model Teamwork Words. Teamwork words are always welcome in the Leeb home. And through the Modeling Tool, we intentionally use them. And our kids are learning to use them too. That’s just how it works.
And that’s just the power of our words. My words matters. Your words matter. And kids are listening.
Lord, death and life are in the power of our tongues. (Proverbs 18:21) Let us speak words of life. Set a guard over our mouths, Lord; keep watch over the door of our lips. (Psalm 141:3) Give us wisdom to use words that reflect You to our children.
Here’s to building better families together–